Physiology 101: Admitting wrong is difficult because we attach our sense of self to an idea, cause, or group. When we feel that idea about the self, our identity, is threatened, our evolutionarily- linked fight, flight, or freeze survival mechanism becomes activated. We defend against being wrong and fight to be right.
Some people just have fragile egos. A brittle self-esteem might not be able to handle admitting that they’ve made a mistake. That they were wrong. It threatens to damage their egos even further, so they avoid it at all cost. Those people might even lash out at others in an effort to prevent admitting wrong.
A person with a narcissistic personality is never likely to admit fault. Mistakes and taking responsibility for them – that will likely never happen. Instead, they tend to project their own negative behaviors onto you or someone else.
Despite how we initially feel about it, admitting mistakes is important. Admitting them can make you a better person. Making mistakes should be viewed as an opportunity to learn and overcome, rather than a setback. Mistakes can improve one’s character. Admitting mistakes is a good way to demonstrate the qualities that make you a good person. Good leaders embrace their mistakes because they learn from them.
The past is set in stone, as well as any previous mistakes made. They can’t be altered in any way. Why not fess up? Learn from them. Maybe allow others to learn from them. Let others know that you are human and everyone makes mistakes. Could be worse, you could be one of those horrible individuals who take delight in the mistakes of others – everyone knows at least one. I’ve met many people who would fit that description.
I recently discovered that I’ve been living a lie. Not intentionally, but still not easy to admit. As stated above, my hope is to become a better person, allow others to learn from my mistake and maybe, just maybe, save someone else from a life filled with regret.
Never wrap potatoes in aluminum foil for baking. Foil holds in moisture and steams the potatoes, resulting in a “boiled” taste and texture. Instead, poke it with a fork a few times and bake at 400 degrees for one hour and turn the potatoes over halfway through the baking time to prevent browning of the undersides where they touch the baking tray.
Figuring out you’ve been wrong for so long (approximately 35 adult years) can make you question reality. What is fake? What is real? I cannot be sure. One spud has turned my world upside down. The money wasted is also mind-blowing.
How many other popular widely held beliefs are actually false? I debunked this one. If you know of any others, let me know. If you were hoping for something a little spicier in my confession, I’m sorry to disappoint.
Standard reporter Lisa Hobbs can be reached at 473-2191.