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Mom tells of pain without daughter
Gina Lance holds a picture of her daughter, Ashlyn Barnes, who was killed in a vehicle crash in May 2013. The story of how Lance has coped with the pain of losing her daughter is told in the latest "Grief Diaries" book, which is now available at

The 17th book in a series called "Grief Diaries" has been released and features the death of local teen Ashlyn Barnes.
“I am the author of her story,” said Gina Lance, Ashlyn’s mother. “I was asked to do this due to a Facebook group I’m in. It’s called AVIDD, which is Advocates for Victims of Impaired and Distracted Driving. Ashlyn is the only victim included from Tennessee.”
“Grief Diaries: Shattered” features 25 powerful stories about the loss of a loved one to a drunk, drugged, or impaired driver. Desiring to raise awareness about the dangers of impaired driving, each writer shares the days leading up to, and the haunting life beyond, the tragic moment their lives were shattered by an impaired driver’s choice to get behind the wheel.
“The hope is for awareness both in prevention and legislative changes,” said Lance. “Tennessee’s laws aren’t very good in DUI cases."
Ashlyn was the passenger in a vehicle driven by Ramiro R. Ibara. He pled guilty to charges of vehicular homicide and vehicular assault. In a deal with the district attorney’s office, he was required to serve one year of a 12-year sentence. He served less than one year before his release.
The book brings to light the heartache families face after the loss of a loved one in an effort to encourage stricter laws and discourage impaired driving.
“I feel that 10 months behind bars is a slap in the face,” said Lance. “Ashlyn’s life and right to live was worth everything to her and to those of us torn apart. Her dad died due to the worst pain. I don’t know how I survived the early grief. It is by far the worst pain I have ever endured. I’m serving life without my daughter and every day hurts.”
For more information about Grief Diaries or to purchase “Grief Diaries: Shattered,” visit or