When you have been deeply hurt, forgiveness can come quickly. The alternative is to cling to the bitterness that eats at your soul. 

At 29, I can share that the absence of my mother and father caused me shame, resentment and anger for a short period of time. Yes, you read that right – short. At an early age, I chose not to dwell on questions like “Did they not want me?” and “Was I not good enough?” yada, yada.

Too often, I’ve seen young people get hung up on these often unanswered questions that shape them into women and men, who doubt their self-worth. For me, I chose to focus on the love of my grandparents, my aunt and uncle, extended family and friends … and most importantly – the love of God. 

In elementary school, I proudly shared that I lived with my grandma and grandpa. Even now, I’m happy to share with anyone who asks about my family tree that I was raised by my grandparents. It’s a shameless admission, truly. I’m completely transparent about my upbringing, who I have a relationship with and who I do not.

Last Sunday, June 16, was Father’s Day. For many, this day elicits less-than-happy, if not painful emotions. Instead of ignoring it, I’ve always celebrated it because my grandpa, Ken Martin, is enough for me. Although the word “dad” is a foreign, unused word I’ll never use, “grandpa” is one that I use daily. Without getting too sappy, I’d like to thank a few father figures in my life starting with my grandfather.

• Grandpa – the man, the myth and the legend. You’re the absolute best. You taught me how to treat people, what to look for in a Christian husband and to value family, even our small one. I could easily dedicate an entire column singing your praises and it wouldn’t be enough to show my appreciation. Thanks for always showing up, sticking around, and supporting me. 

• Uncle Marc – You’ve always been the coolest. I’ve continually admired your dedication to health and fitness and I’ve learned a lot from you over the years. In fact, you’re still my go-to health and fitness coach. I appreciate your willingness to always share your expertise. No one can motivate me to push myself the way you can in the gym. Thanks for showing me how to improve and set goals.

• Randy – I hit the jackpot in the in-law department. Your emphasis on the importance of family time has carried over to Ross. For that, I’m extremely grateful. I enjoy sitting and hanging out in the family room being a Garrison. 

Some of your Randy-isms may be ridiculous, but they provide everyone with a hearty laugh. I particularly enjoy when your stories are outrageous enough to solicit a “Randy!” from Lisa.

Grandpa, Uncle, Papa… no matter what you call them, they influence our lives and they are the people we look up to. Also, just remember that even if you don’t have an earthly father who cares for you, you do have a heavenly one who does.

Standard reporter Lacy Garrison can be reached at 473-2191.