When my old friend Rob calls us from New York City, he always asks, "But what do you do out there?" As if everyone who doesn't live in Manhattan lives on a farm in the middle of flyover country where you have to pump your water by hand and use an outhouse. What he really means is "Where do you shop?""Doing something," to me, means mowing the lawn, raking the leaves, stacking the wood, tending the garden, fixing the house, cleaning the gutters, jawing with the neighbors about how strange the weather has been.